What Really Matters - Outward Appearances

Shirt Tucked In – Or Out?

I woke up this morning thinking about writing for my blog. But being on vacation for the past 10 days in Hawaii really has slowed down my ‘want’ to write. So I started surfing the web and catching up on some of my favorite blogs. And the first place I landed was on Lauren Mauldin’s blog, She Moved To Texas. I love this woman. She pulls no punches and writes from her heart.

What Really Matters - Outward Appearances

And while I was sitting on a beach in Hawaii, she had written a blog post about her dilemma of tucking her shirt into her breeches, and always wearing a belt. She like me, has struggled with her weight. A while back I was noticing how much weight she had lost. In fact I think she was partially responsible for me finally getting on board and committing to losing some of my own excess weight.

And her dilemma was about tucking in her shirt while she rode, she wrote that she has always done this. In her opinion it makes her feel better to have her shirt tucked in to her breeches when she rides. She feels more put together, more polished. Which really is commendable in my opinion.

Even though size shouldn’t matter in how we feel about others, it does. We judge people on their outward appearance, even though we shouldn’t. I think we use it as a way to judge ourselves, by looking at the people around us, as well as what is pushed to us as ideal. A big thanks to social media I suppose.

But why do we all care so much about what others think about the way we look? As long as we are good people, doing the best that we can, shouldn’t that trump our outward appearance?

What Really Matters - Outward Appearances

Myself, I feel just the opposite of what Lauren feels. I feel more comfortable and feel better about the way I look when my shirt is left untucked.

Sure I don’t have the polished look that Lauren does. But where she is more comfortable tucking in, I am more comfortable untucked. I think that pretty much sums up my personality. And I am all about feeling comfortable, not only when I ride, but what I feel happy with in how I present myself to the world.

I know I would probably look better and more presentable if I tucked everything in, but that’s just not me. And when I am tucked in, I feel VERY self-conscious of my outer appearance. I have transitioned to wearing a little more form fitting clothing, which looks neater, and I do feel confident in how I look.

But then I started wondering, why do we put so much effort into how we look? I mean we can’t see ourselves, unless it’s in photos. And unless you are like me, and begging your husband to take a few photos while you ride, we can’t see ourselves.

What Really Matters - Outward Appearances

Now I get it with my horses. Because I am constantly looking at them. I understand it with my home, or my yard. Again, I can constantly see it. So I ask the question, why do we care so much of how we look to others?

What Really Makes YOU Happy?

Shouldn’t we focus more on what makes US happy rather than worrying about what someone else thinks? That’s what I’m trying to wrap my head around after reading Lauren’s blog post. Instead of wondering about what other’s think about our outward appearance, wouldn’t it be better to think about how much joy our horses bring us? And maybe focus on how our seat is effecting our horse. Or how long we can ride in a two point position around the arena. Or what we can see out on the trail.

We need to care about the precious time we have with our horses rather than focusing on how we look to others or what they think of us. Because at the end of the day the only thing that really matters is how being with your horse makes you feel. Not what some random stranger thinks.

What Really Matters - Outward Appearances

Yes I get it, we all want to look good. We all want to present ourselves in the best way we can. But at what cost?

What Really Matters - Outward Appearances

So yes, I feel more comfortable with my shirt untucked when I ride. And at the end of the day, I am happy with how my horse looks and feels. And I am happy with how my yard looks, as well as my house.

What Really Matters

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of me, or what they say. Because honestly, I don’t care. I choose to be happy with myself without worrying about my outward appearance. I don’t let what others think about me ruin my happiness. Life isn’t Instagram. A happy life is what makes YOU happy. So untucked or tucked, you do you – and what makes YOU happy.


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